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Really, What's Next?

February 11th, 2013 at 08:39 am

Retirement sucks! It's not just trying to get to the point where you have enough money, but it is the thought that you can be with someone 24-7.
On the weekends I have been watching my husband sit and watch tv for hours. So I get boared and fall asleep. When I wake up he is gone for a walk. What is that? Could have woke me up and asked me if I wanted to go, maybe! I have gotten to the point I like Mario a lot better, playing that entertains me more. So I woke up played Mario for a couple of hours then went for a walk myself. Thank God my daughter invited us for dinner.
He has always left activities up to me and now I am just tired of doing it. It would be nice if he would make the decision and invite me.
I really don't know if doing this on a daily basis is gonna work or not. I am scared that nothing will change and I will have to look at him as a fixture on the wall.
He has a year left of work and then what? It is time to have a sit down and see what we can come up with.

6 Responses to “Really, What's Next?”

  1. Petunia 100 Says:

    I haven't retired yet, but once upon a time, I did become a SAHM after working full-time for many years. When your life has a big shift, it can take some time to adjust and get into a new rhythm. Be patient with yourselves. Smile
    But do take some time to think about what you want. Day after day of sitting on the couch watching tv doesn't appeal to you, so what does? The world is your oyster.

  2. LuckyRobin Says:

    Yes, do have a sit down with him. Don't expect him to read your mind. Men don't do so well in that department.

  3. Carolina Girl Says:

    In any marriage - communication is key! Please share with him your expections, concerns, etc. I have learned through many marriage counseling sessions just how differently men and women are wired. If I have an issue with my husband and nothing changes, but I don't voice my concern to him - he assumes everything is fine. If you share with him and nothing changes, then I would suggest you find something that brings you enjoyment and go do it anyway. Find a friend and take a trip, volunteer, etc. I am certain you didn't look forward to retirement to play Mario. Smile Wishing you the best!

  4. ceejay74 Says:

    I agree--talk it out! And not in an accusing way, or he'll get defensive. He probably doesn't know anything is wrong.

    It's not just men who can be like that. Sometimes my husband comes to me all up in arms about something he wishes I did, and I'm like "Don't take that tone the first time you tell me something. How was I supposed to know if you haven't told me before?" (He's gotten better about how he approaches me, because I've made it abundantly clear how I feel about that. Wink )

  5. SecretarySaving Says:

    Creating a daily schedule around doing things that you like (cooking, sewing, water aerobics) what ever that might be and treat it like a job. Don't sit around and wait on someone else and left life pass you by. You can still do the planning for evenings and weekends when he's home.

  6. Petunia in a Flower Garden Says:

    I'll be interested in seeing how you work things out. I'm likely to be in a similar position - I think I already am! He has told me that since he has no hobbies or interests to pursue, he wants to keep working past retirement age. He has a wish about how that might occur but no definite plans. I am putting energy into developing friendships and pursuing interests away from my husband. I think that will work best for us.

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